It's officially the holiday season!! And so, the million dollar question is... What do the lonely do at Christmas? Wait, don't answer that.
By now you should know that I am a single, non-married Black woman in America, to the point where I actually think I'm the poster child for "This Is How To Be a Successful Single, " yada, yada, yada.
I'm single, I get it, but I'm not in the complaining business because I truly believe that in everything, there is a season. With that being said, I do know there are others who may not be in that accepting space.
I do understand.
Jay Moss just released a new cd and my favorite song so far is, "It Is What It Is." If taken for face value, the song sums up our situation, with its chorus, "Some things aren't for understanding, some things aren't for comprehending, it is what it is. "
Ha! That's right.
What I do know is that you can't do anything to change your situation at this moment unless you are already on the verge of crossing over into a relationship. And if that is the case, get it girl!
If that isn't the case but you definitely have your I's dotted, your T's crossed and you're otherwise confident in the woman you see when you look in the mirror, not forgetting that those who love you confirm all the above, then your being single just is what it is.
It's your shift. You know, like the schedule no one wants at work or the kiddie table you can't wait to outgrow at the family gathering. Get it? It will pass over and you will finally get that spot you've longed for.
Instead of wallowing in the complaining zone this holiday season, or singing Christmas carols that will only leave you adding tears to the egg nog, accept that you are where you are and things won't always be this way.
So again, what do the happily single, self-motivated, hard working inspiring, woman do at Christmas?
We volunteer at homeless venues, give clothing to women's shelters and don't forget the babies needing bears while confined to their hospital beds.
We attend our place of worship, gain spiritual strength and pray for the right here and now, leaving our future in the hands of our maker.
We look back over the year and figure out what worked and what didn't; who should stay and who should go.
So when the question is asked of you, pull out your list of things to do, check it twice and know that being single can be quite nice.
Oh and you know this applies to New Years' also, right?